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2019.09.12 06:35 OvershootDotEXE ILYCS

Unofficial sub for the dating simulator game I Love You Colonel Sanders
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2019.08.02 15:50 greenteaapplepie69 Vindicta

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2012.10.06 07:51 MirandaStrange My Candy Love

A subreddit for fans of My Candy Love, the popular internet flirting game, inspired by Japanese dating-games (otome).
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2020.11.30 00:18 Medicinal_green_bean 27 in [M]major use of some help after a MAJOR breakup

I recently just broke up with what I thought was the love of my life today and I cant shake the feeling of loneliness. I promised myself I wouldnt let ANYONE take over my life the way she did. Since we started dating I gained all the weight Iost, lost a 10 year battle with alcoholism, and now in the brink of suicidal thoughts. To sum it up I feel like a mess.
I know logically things are okay and manageable and that I can see myself through this pain but it doesnt make this hurt feel any less. I dont have ANY friends since I have a tough time getting over my social anxiety. That makes it hard to just "put myself out there" because that's like asking someone just to take a step off a ledge.
I just need some advice on making friends at my age. I understand the COVID situation kind of "changed the game" if that makes sense but I know what I need is to branch out.
If anyone has any advice or just want to be my friend I'm more than open to talk rn. I kind of sort of need it to be honest.
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2020.11.30 00:18 TehyungLad Little advice.

So I’ve got so many devices disguised .. poorly as my households. Duplicates with Mac addresses no match.
Dealing with DoS, redirects, cellular and wifi jamming and it’s becoming a real issue and headache. We reset the gateway, use vpns and always ofc up to date software and devices... I do my verifications of file integrities and all of such. No UDnP or wps ever. Wps3 18 characters long. I’m sure I’m still messing up.
In logs I have many duplicates with false Mac addresses on every device (duplicates of the same devices) and there is some obvious jamming when I can make phone calls sometimes just 20 meters fro my apartment. Living by Microsoft where everyone is in the tech game, and all the script kiddies I’m not surprised. There are pen testers everywhere.
One log shows an Apple Watch, with the OS Watch OS hunter 7.0.2. I would assume this is associated with kali hunter?
Also, would you assume the failure of spoofing/mimicking real Mac addresses further supports the assumption of an amateur or is it more likely to be a bluff of some sorts? Also just changing the device name around with a room mate had them targeting her and me free for days. Bluff or script kiddy? What’s your hunch?
Am I correct to assume a jammer has little use if you jam just as well with kali?
Yes I have an enemy and have been pursuing legal action. She didn’t like that and send death threats which were a joke... congrats you have an email of mine to spam that I’ve never before typed in. The perpetrator iswith a huge motive unfortunately, prison time and a LOT of money.
I make sure to have eyes on, witnesses as these things unfold.
I’m not very skilled and would love to track the down. Of course it’s not so easy.
Hopping this sub would lend a hand because the others seem oblivious to the ease and availability of this sort of tech.
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2020.11.30 00:17 420vro I (23M) can't get over somebody (22F). It's been over 5 years.

I don't really have a lot of experience with relationships or romance. I didn't really even have much of a social life until I was in high school. Eventually, I made a lot of friends, or at least a lot of acquaintances. I started to actually know what it was like to grow close to others.
There was this girl who I shared a couple classes with Sophomore year, let's call her E, she immediately caught my eye. She was beautiful, smart, outgoing. It's not like I immediately fell head over heels, but I knew from the moment I saw her that I wanted to know her. In time we did get to know each other. She added me on Snapchat, we started talking, and it was so easy to talk to her, to trust her.
Well, I wasn't good at reading people then (nor am I now admittedly) and despite what in hindsight were some very obvious hints she liked me, I didn't pick up on them. Still had great times with her, considered her a friend. She could be abrasive sometimes, critical. She called me out on my bullshit, which yeah, sometimes sucked, but I respected it.
I messed around for a bit, dated and hooked up with a few people. I started dating this one girl, V, who ended up treating me horribly. It was maybe only two months of my life but it was the first "real" relationship I had, the first time there was somebody in my life that I was romantically invested in.
V cheated on me then broke up with me, I was completely a mess and in my feelings because hey, my first "real" high school relationship was ending. But, we got back together. Horrible decision in hindsight.
Not long after I was hanging with friends including E and one of them told me that E liked me, like a lot. I was shocked, didn't know how to feel. I liked E and I would have loved to pursue things then and there, but I felt as though I had a commitment to V and I didn't want to just turn my back on her.
Well, that day E hooked up with another one of my friends. They started dating. I was happy for them, no jealousy or anger, respected them both. V and I broke up, again it was messy, but after her telling me many lies (including pretending to be pregnant) and emotionally abusing me, I was able to move on pretty quick and have never looked back.
I would go on to hang with E and her boyfriend a lot. We'd drink together, smoke together, do drugs together. I really didn't have any ulterior motive, no jealousy. I was just happy to have friends and to be young, living my life, and I actually quite enjoyed hanging out with her boyfriend. I had other pursuits, girls I spent my time with. Things were good.
One day E hit me up and asked me if I wanted to get together, told me that her and her boyfriend had broken up. I wasn't immediately thinking romantic thoughts, but I'd be lying if in that moment I didn't see it as a potential second chance to be with her.
We started spending a lot of time together, like almost every day. My feelings for her just grew and grew. I didn't know how to express it to her and while I'd later find out she was feeling the same way, she didn't know how to express it to me either, at least at the time.
One night we took a psychedelic research chemical and tripped together and for the first time were actually able to communicate some of our romantic feelings to each other. She told me the real reason her relationship had ended, an unforgivable thing her boyfriend had done. Broke me up a bit inside to see her hurt like that. But I still saw the beauty in her clear as day, that night is really when I think I fell in love. I told her, we kissed, and when we did I felt a feeling I've never felt any other time in my life. It was like our souls connected into a ring of love and I saw and felt every outcome of it from this life and others. I've never been religious or even spiritual, but now I think maybe that's what it feels like to meet your soulmate? I don't know.
Either way, we made amazing memories. Towards the wind down I started to get some weird feelings, thoughts that I should push her away, that maybe she wasn't really what she seemed. Intrusive thoughts. I tried to brush them aside but I'm sure she noticed.
The next day though, we got together at a spot we used to share and we talked more, all those intrusive thoughts vanished, replaced only by love. She wasn't ready to commit to me though. She still had unresolved feelings for other people in her life, plus after being in a relationship she wanted to go out, party, live her life. Maybe even date a girl. And I supported her 100%. As much as I wanted to be with her, I wanted her to be happy with herself and confident in the decisions she was making.
We still would get together almost all the time, but she'd go out on weekends without me, spend time with people I didn't know. There was this guy in particular she was really torn up about. I tried really hard not to get jealous. I didn't want to be the type of guy who can't let the person he cares about have friends or make their own decisions, but some resentment was growing inside of me. I loved her, I thought she loved me, I just wanted to hear her tell me she was ready for something more than just being friends with weird romantic attachments.
We went out camping one night with friends, ended up sleeping together for the first time. It was, well, amazing. I felt close to her. I had a lot of friends who thought she had a shrill voice but it was the most beautiful sound in the world to me, even if it was sometimes chewing me out for something I knew I shouldn't have been doing. Every part of her was beautiful to me, from her mind to her soul to her body. She made me want to improve myself and grow as a person. She challenged me in ways nobody ever has, and I mean that completely positively.
We'd walk in the park together, hold hands, love up on each other whenever we could. But still no commitment. One night she went out, ended up in another guy's bed. Part of my heart just kinda broke. It's not like the feelings for her went away yet at the time I could feel nothing but resent and loneliness.
She said it wasn't her fault, that she'd been taken advantage of, that she didn't even remember it and that she just woke up in his bed. Nothing she said really changed how I felt. Honestly I don't even have good memories of the conversations we had. I know I shut down and didn't even answer her snaps for a while. She was heartbroken too. I hoped she hadn't meant to hurt me. To this day I don't really know for sure. One day she begged me to come see her in person and despite not wanting any part in it, I did.
I showed up, we sat in my car. She cried, I didn't. I barely showed any emotion. I did try to explain why I couldn't look at her the same way anymore. She tried to explain that part of the reason she would go out and talk about other people is that she thought it would push me to be with her but... I had already wanted to be with her more than anything. All she had done was push me away.
I really hate myself for how I acted in that car. I kicked her out. I told and showed her that I didn't care for her in the moment. I regret it all the time. Everybody makes mistakes. Maybe she made a few. But leaving her there, the woman I loved, is something I can never take back. I was in pain but it's not an excuse. Seeing her cry in my mirror still haunts me.
Time goes by. For a while I thought everything was in the past, I barely thought about her. I hook up with any girl I can, I drink and smoke, I party and generally disregard love.
Well, then things happened. A bit more time went by and once again, every morning when I'd wake up she was the first thing on my mind and the last thing before I slept. I've had my fair share of crushes, I've tried to get back into the romance game. The problem is that nobody makes me feel like her. I don't want to settle for something that isn't real. I could never pretend to love somebody I don't. I seriously could care less about winning over any other woman in the world.
I still think about the time spent holding her close, hearing all of her beautiful thoughts, taking her around town in the whip showing her off. Only girl I could ever see myself marrying. I think we both had a share in messing things up but I can only live with my guilt. I have no resentment towards her anymore.
I haven't seen her in person since I was 17. I tried to reconnect with her a few times over the years, even tried to tell her how I still felt but never got a real response. Blocked her a few times on social media, not because I was angry at her but because I was angry at myself and because just seeing her around was painful. Another thing I'm really not proud of.
I know it sounds like a sad "one-that-got-away" story any my feelings may just sound like irrational teenage love but I'm not looking at it blindly. I honestly think it was probably for the best we didn't end up together when we did. I had a lot of lessons still left to learn about myself and I'm sure she's been through the same. The rational side of me tells me that I should be grateful for the memories but happy to be alone; that what I experienced wasn't enough of a foundation for a healthy relationship. The passionate side of me is telling me that nobody and nothing is perfect yet my time with E is still the closest I've ever felt to heaven.
I talked to E recently, she's doing well. She has a boyfriend. She's pursuing her dreams and working on herself. I'm proud of her, it's nice to see her thriving. She was very kind to me, kinder than I would have expected after all this time. Says we should get together and catch up when we get a chance, she thinks there's a reason for us to get brought back together after all this time. It all sounds nice. I know that even if she feels that way though, she has a life now that I'm not a part of.
I can't move on. I'm not saying every facet of my life revolves around her. I have hobbies, loved ones, friends. But everyday she's still the first and last person on my mind and I still feel like I have love for her. I want to feel normal. As it stands the only time I've felt normal in the past 5+ years has been when I've tried to hide and run from my feelings yet I feel that's not a healthy way to cope either.
I find myself sleeping a lot of the recent days away, barely spending time on the things I enjoy. Quarantine is only making it worse as I have no outlets to even try to meet new friends or experience new things. I feel stuck and like my mental health is declining. I have no insurance (don't qualify for Medicaid) and I'm on unemployment so talking to a professional is off the table.
I don't really see a way of addressing my relationship with E in a productive or healthy way at this time, especially considering she's in a romantic relationship. I guess the reason I came to this subreddit is advice for well, is there anything I can do that would maybe be positive for myself? Or maybe if somebody could offer an anecdote, insight, or even just an outsider's passing whim. I want to heal and grow as a person.
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2020.11.30 00:12 ThrowRAnotsevere I’m not sure I (20F) want to marry my boyfriend (21M) anymore

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for almost two years now, and living with him for 6 months now in our own apartment that his parents and I split the cost of.
We are both university students but I am taking 6 more credit hours than he is and am working 12 hours a week, whereas he doesn’t have a job.
We’ve talked about getting married for a while now and have confirmed we both wanted to do it... and I think he plans on proposing sometime around New Years, but I don’t know if I want to say yes anymore.
The thing is, living with him, I don’t think I’m happy.
I do the majority of the chores around the house, and anything he says he’ll do, takes him days to get around to.
Whenever I don’t have work, I make us breakfast, and often I’ll do dinner too. He takes care of a lot of dinners as well but he’ll often ask me to start helping him do things when he cooks, which defeats the purpose when I ask him to cook because I have homework due that night.
He barely gives physical affection. He’s not reserved at all, and is fairly open about his emotions, but vehemently does not enjoy being cuddled most nights. On occasion he enjoys it but it means so much to me to be able to be close to him and cuddle, but every time I ask he turns me down, and usually if I ever just cuddle up to him he gets irritated and tells me to get off. Before we moved in together this was never really present. In fact, it was almost the other way around.
Speaking of moving in together, I didn’t actually want to.. I was going to get an apartment with some friends, but he was convinced that we would grow apart like that, and I did also want to be able to relax with him without worrying about someone else bothering us for any reason, so I ended up agreeing to it in the end, and while I don’t regret that (their apartment isn’t very nice and it’s always noisy), sometimes I wish I had a place just by myself so I would only have myself to worry about.
We used to play games together almost every day, but now he plays games with other people (including games I have too) without inviting me, using me having homework or being “busy” or just not asking as an excuse to why I wasn’t invited. But when I play games with my friends or go hang out with them (pre-corona) he gets angsty, and fusses about me staying up so much later (I’ll be up til 3 am on games with friends about twice a month, he stays up until 1 am almost every night, even after playing all day, when I don’t start playing until ~11)
He’s selfish. We were given money to split for dog/house-watching, but since I was only there half of the days (was at work for half, when I was at the house I was the one feeding the dogs, though), he pocketed the money and told me he’d buy me new snowboard bindings for the winter (I didn’t have any). Instead he ended up using all of it for a brand new pair of step on bindings(he already had a pair of bindings and boots he got last year) for himself, and asked me to buy my own. I didn’t really feel like I was owed any of the money, but it made me really upset because he told me he would get me bindings and instead got himself some, and I told him as such, and he started getting upset at me and acting as if I was entitling myself to his money.
He always puts himself first. I feel like a secondary consideration in his life, like he has to make sure he’s comfy and happy first, and it’s just bonus points if I’m happy too. (This isn’t a problem with sex, but he’ll make me feel bad when he’s the one not in the mood) It just feels as if I’m a support character in his life to him.
He complains about literally everything I do that mildly effects him that he wasn’t expecting, even if it saves him time and energy. Put the rug mat down? -> “Oh my god. Why did you do that? I was going to do it when the new couch came.” Meanwhile he gets upset at me anytime I complain..
He always tells me he’s a good boyfriend. That if, for instance, I’m having period cramps he’ll take care of me, but once I woke up in the middle of the night from the pain being so bad that I woke him up just to hold me (it helps) and he pushed me away and bitched about me waking him up all day.
I also realized today how badly I want to get an IUD because I really do not want to end up having a kid with him anytime soon.
It’s not all bad.
I love him and I love his family. His parents treat me like family and I can always count on them if I need help. My boyfriend tries to cover most of the costs of groceries (on his dad’s card, I personally pay for the remainder) and drives me where I need to go (I can’t use his car because I cannot drive manual—he’s going to be trading it in for a larger car for practicality and he was going to teach me manual on that so we can both use it). If I ask him to do something, he’ll help me out (while complaining about it as much as possible).
He regularly lets me use his computer for games and programs mine can’t run, and he is also a very smart person. He was diagnosed with ADHD as a kid, but he tends to be lazy and play video games more often than just inattentive. He pushes things back more often than he forgets to finish things.
He’s great with people and he cares about his friends. He’ll bail on us watching a show to hang out with them, and he’ll pick them up when they’re being followed by a creepy dude or push their car back to their house if it dies. On our anniversary he asked if he could play a game with his best friend who’s currently in the army instead of me since he never gets to talk to him anymore.
I just feel so low on his priorities.
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2020.11.30 00:11 Big_Bones41 23 [M4F] Pennsylvania/East Coast- I had my friends write reviews of me for a dating reddit?!?! (Not Clickbate)

http://imgur.com/a/4Eir3i3. <------- Me
That's right, you read the title correctly! I had a bunch of my friends write review of me and I'm going to post them here completely unfiltered from what they typed when I forced them all to do this.
A couple things about me before I unload them all:
-Big fan of animation as a whole, I watch cartoons and anime out the ass
-Usually do well with a more dominant partner, but I've gone both ways
ALRIGHT, enough foreplay, let's get to these reviews, enjoy!
"hes a super chill dude who knows how to have a good time. Hes funny and nice but dont cross him or else he will main tank your ass. If you like pokemon youll get along even better just watch out for his duggy, he has a good taste in shows to watch and can reccomend good ones. If your ready for all this greatness proceed if not get the fuck away." -Natsue (I play competative pokemon with him, for context)
"Ladies this is a message to you about a hot, sexy voiced stud in your area, he puts the d in "respecting you", you may say there's no d in that, well not yet. He's got an amazing cute personality, a lovely smile, is funny, interesting and cool hobbies and from what I'm told he's packing heat down below. You may be thinking why haven't I met him yet, well that can be instantly changed if you just match up, I swear to god use your brains he's absolutely wonderful and he's super good at smite. Don't mess up and give it a try, I guarantee you won't be disappointed." - Amy
"Loves pegging,
Also use this definition of Garrett from urban dictionary: Garrett is the probably the most kindest guy you will ever meet, but he could be a pain in the ass. He has a great sense of humor, and is very fun to be around. Garrett is also very creative, and can be dirty minded some times. Garrett is a great friend and boyfriend he is there for you no matter what. He makes you smile even if you don't want to. He has a great personality and he smile all the time. Garrett is probably the best boyfriend ever. If you are his girlfriend you are very lucky because Garrett will be there for you no matter what, and if you are his one true love he will stick with you no matter how tempting these other girls might be. Garrett has the greatest smile ever, and has the most beautiful baby blue eyes. Garrett is probably one of the best friend and boyfriend anyone could ask for. Garrett is the most kindest person you could ever meet, but he could be a pain in the ass some time"- Haru
"He fucks turtles so he prolly has a big cock"- Taz
"Affordable prices, great late night shows. Too much arrogance. 3/5 star" -Ezra (My best friend)
"If you look up Chad in the dictionary... picture of Garrett. If you look up Stud in the dictionary... picture of Garrett. If you look up Sex Icon in the dictionary, yup, you guessed it, picture of Garrett. Lookin for someone who screams BDE? Hit up Garrett. Wondering what BDE stands for? Spend a night with him to find out. Want to get with the best Smite player in Minion Hunters? Well, Ezra is busy atm, but you know who his best friend is??? GARRETT!!!! Ladies, this is a no-brainer... you would need to be Hellen Keller to not see this absolute stud for who he is" -Luke
"Good taste, tastes good"- Hannagh
"Garrett can be the most genuine, kind guy you meet or the biggest asshole in the world. Usually the second one cause he's toxic. He is hilarious and talented. Loyal and intelligent. Great taste in all forms of entertainment, but acts condescending about it. He has adorable crazy hair and gay eyes that see right through people's clothes. Very toxic. Did I mention toxic? Comes off nerdy but still manages to get all the pussy, internet or irl doesn't matter. Caution: you may fall in love. This would be very unfortunate because you could ruin the best friendship of your life. Note: you will often find Garrett around Ezra, that's his side hoe. He strongly dislikes the taking fire giant before gold fury. Lend him your energy, he needs to recharge his Dragon Balls to slay you ladies with his Power Pole" - Azure
"As long as he agrees that pee is stored in the balls then hes a good man" -Sterling
"4/10 tries to actually talk to you... disgusting Still haven't gotten an unsolicited dick pic so what's even the point Only reason he has 4 points is he makes enough bank to rent a Christian Minecraft server" - Hazel
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2020.11.30 00:09 Big_Bones41 23 [M4F] Pennsylvania/East Coast- I had my friends write reviews of me to put on a dating reddit?!?! (Not Clickbate)

http://imgur.com/a/4Eir3i3. <------- Me
That's right, you read the title correctly! I had a bunch of my friends write review of me and I'm going to post them here completely unfiltered from what they typed when I forced them all to do this.
A couple things about me before I unload them all:
-Big fan of animation as a whole, I watch cartoons and anime out the ass
-Usually do well with a more dominant partner, but I've gone both ways
ALRIGHT, enough foreplay, let's get to these reviews, enjoy!
"hes a super chill dude who knows how to have a good time. Hes funny and nice but dont cross him or else he will main tank your ass. If you like pokemon youll get along even better just watch out for his duggy, he has a good taste in shows to watch and can reccomend good ones. If your ready for all this greatness proceed if not get the fuck away." -Natsue (I play competative pokemon with him, for context)
"Ladies this is a message to you about a hot, sexy voiced stud in your area, he puts the d in "respecting you", you may say there's no d in that, well not yet. He's got an amazing cute personality, a lovely smile, is funny, interesting and cool hobbies and from what I'm told he's packing heat down below. You may be thinking why haven't I met him yet, well that can be instantly changed if you just match up, I swear to god use your brains he's absolutely wonderful and he's super good at smite. Don't mess up and give it a try, I guarantee you won't be disappointed." - Amy
"Loves pegging,
Also use this definition of Garrett from urban dictionary: Garrett is the probably the most kindest guy you will ever meet, but he could be a pain in the ass. He has a great sense of humor, and is very fun to be around. Garrett is also very creative, and can be dirty minded some times. Garrett is a great friend and boyfriend he is there for you no matter what. He makes you smile even if you don't want to. He has a great personality and he smile all the time. Garrett is probably the best boyfriend ever. If you are his girlfriend you are very lucky because Garrett will be there for you no matter what, and if you are his one true love he will stick with you no matter how tempting these other girls might be. Garrett has the greatest smile ever, and has the most beautiful baby blue eyes. Garrett is probably one of the best friend and boyfriend anyone could ask for. Garrett is the most kindest person you could ever meet, but he could be a pain in the ass some time"- Haru
"He fucks turtles so he prolly has a big cock"- Taz
"Affordable prices, great late night shows. Too much arrogance. 3/5 star" -Ezra (My best friend)
"If you look up Chad in the dictionary... picture of Garrett. If you look up Stud in the dictionary... picture of Garrett. If you look up Sex Icon in the dictionary, yup, you guessed it, picture of Garrett. Lookin for someone who screams BDE? Hit up Garrett. Wondering what BDE stands for? Spend a night with him to find out. Want to get with the best Smite player in Minion Hunters? Well, Ezra is busy atm, but you know who his best friend is??? GARRETT!!!! Ladies, this is a no-brainer... you would need to be Hellen Keller to not see this absolute stud for who he is" -Luke
"Good taste, tastes good"- Hannagh
"Garrett can be the most genuine, kind guy you meet or the biggest asshole in the world. Usually the second one cause he's toxic. He is hilarious and talented. Loyal and intelligent. Great taste in all forms of entertainment, but acts condescending about it. He has adorable crazy hair and gay eyes that see right through people's clothes. Very toxic. Did I mention toxic? Comes off nerdy but still manages to get all the pussy, internet or irl doesn't matter. Caution: you may fall in love. This would be very unfortunate because you could ruin the best friendship of your life. Note: you will often find Garrett around Ezra, that's his side hoe. He strongly dislikes the taking fire giant before gold fury. Lend him your energy, he needs to recharge his Dragon Balls to slay you ladies with his Power Pole" - Azure
"As long as he agrees that pee is stored in the balls then hes a good man" -Sterling
"4/10 tries to actually talk to you... disgusting Still haven't gotten an unsolicited dick pic so what's even the point Only reason he has 4 points is he makes enough bank to rent a Christian Minecraft server" - Hazel
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2020.11.30 00:06 Smile-Fearless My Brother's Narcissist Ex: Part 1 Million (7)

TLDR: Shannon got my brother kicked out of his apartment, spread lies about him, and tried to get him fired.
I want to thank everyone for the kind words and wishing my brother and niece well, that being said I'm going to try and wrap everything Shannon has done in the past/recently in this post. I probably won't post another part unless something else happens (which is probably will). If I do, it'll probably be tidbit stuff she's done in the past that didn't warrant an entire story.
OR, I might post a really confusing story that we don't have the answer to yet as that's if they're actually married or not due to a stunt Shannon pulled. If people are interested, I might post the story, especially if anyone can offer insight about the ordeal as we're not sure if they're married or not.
The past year has really showed my brother how manipulative and entitled Shannon is because she no longer had to pretend with him. She's even done a few things that shocked my mother and I, which is saying something because we honestly didn't believe this woman had a limit to what she could do.
It all started when she moved in with her new "rich" boyfriend we'll call Taylor. Only a few weeks into them dating, she was already texting my brother, wanting to hookup with him. But my brother, finally done with her and not feeling like he had to cater to her demands anymore didn't respond. He especially didn't want to be her side-guy. This continued for a while until he started dating Ronda.
(Also, because some people did ask how Esme would treat future women, Esme stated she would just see if Ronda was okay to date her dad, and he let them meet a few times and hang out. Esme loves Ronda, she talks about her a lot and has stated "She's much, MUCH better than Shannon!')
Now. Shannon had been spreading around town my brother was still infatuated with her, begging her to come home, to take him back, all this stuff that basically made her seem desirable. But, when my brother started dating Ronda, people began to see she was lying. I guess this made Shannon angry, because this is when the trouble started.
While at one of Esme's baseball games, Shannon stole my brother's phone from his car. (She admitted to this as she confronted him about texting Ronda and telling our mother all the things she was doing/saying). She tried to tell him if she came over to his house, he'd let him have the phone back. Needless to say, my brother didn't get that phone back until later on. She was even spreading rumors that my brother was lying about dating Ronda to make her jealous! Things only got worst when my brother invited Ronda to a game and Shannon was there. Apparently she had invited Taylor along and was planning to "show him off" until she saw Ronda.
The thing is about Ronda ... Not only does she do MMA style fighting, she use to be overweight to the point it caused blood clotts that nearly killed her. So she started exercising and then got into fighting. Now she looks like a runway model with muscles. (My brother often jokes that she could beat him up if she wanted to). Shannon took one look at Ronda and then left with Taylor. My brother said he didn't know she would be there, but was so happy she was so she could see he how better off he was without her. But, of course, Shannon stepped up her game.
My brother was planning to move into a new apartment, it was specifically for people who worked in law enforcement (my brother is a cop) so the rent would be cheaper. All that had to be done was for the guy who was currently living there to move out. Shannon approached him and asked when he moved out if she could move back in, stating that if she didn't move back in the city limits soon, she would have to pay school tuition for her four kids. My brother, not seeing the issue since he was moving out anyways, agreed. However, he stated that he wouldn't be moved out in time before school started. Shannon had a fit, demanding he had to be out and my brother told her that wasn't possible.
The next day, my brother's landlord approached him, saying he had to be our in 7 days since he didn't pay the latest rent. My brother got angry, saying that they had an understanding that he was moving out, and that he was giving him 30 days as that was the law. The landlord said that he was only giving him a week, and that Shannon told him how disgusting the house was, how it was destroyed on the inside, and that he had put her out on the street with her 4 children.
My brother told him it was all lies, even invited him inside the house to show him it wasn't true. The landlord refused and we later found out that he was a friend of Shannon's brother. He was playing favorites.
During this time, a lot of stuff was in the news about horrible police officers misusing their power in the media, so my brother was hesitant in reacting and walking on eggshells. His chief told him that they could fight it, but my brother told him it was fine, he'd let her have the house and he'd move in with my grandmother for a little while. This was because he didn't want to be painted as a big bad cop using the legal system to his advantage against a single mother and because he didn't have money for a lawyer.
Eventually, Shannon moved into the old apartment and then was promptly kicked out. Why? Not only was she missing payments, but the house eventually became what she said my brother had turned it into. Moldy pans left on the stove, food spilled everywhere (possibly by the kids), and the oder was so bad that you could smell it on the outside! However, Shannon painted it a different way on facebook, saying that her and Taylor decided to buy a house together and moved in with his parents to save money. The landlord, however, exposed this as lies, saying he'd never rent to her again.
My brother went to his chief and asked for advice, stating that Shannon was getting crazier, spreading rumors about him, and getting him kicked out of his apartment had sent him over the edge. He was worried about how she could ruin his lives by painting herself as a single mother of 4 kids and him as this abuser. (She was starting to tell people that my brother had beaten her. Even made a post on facebook about how her stress was so bad it messed with her "heart problems" and she had go to the emergency room). The chief asked my brother if he had proof that he never abused Shannon. My brother said yes, he had confronted her in texts and she had told him, "I never said that stuff! Taylor is just assuming, you were so sweet to me!" as the conversation went on, it morphed into, "They must have misunderstood! I'd never say that!" His chief said while this was good, there wasn't a lot those texts could do as Shannon could easily say she was scared of my brother and that's why she said she didn't say those things. What he needed was evidence to show what kind of person Shannon was. He told my brother to go no contact, that if Shannon really was insane she would pull shenanigans to get his attention. His chief said to document everything and collect enough until he could finally get a restraining order. (We're still working on this, the only thing we're missing that would be the nail in the coffin in Shannon attempting something in person, so far it's only been texts or third parties).
My brother did as he was told and went completely no contact. His chief was right and Shannon started doing things that made her seem completely unhinged.
Shannon actually called my brother's work. She started saying things to his chief that made my family wonder if we haven't seen the real Shannon yet. She started saying things, disgusting things, about how my brother was sad, that he needed this (insert female area) and how she was this and that for him. How she knew he wanted her, that she was so sorry she couldn't give him this (insert female area) anymore before hanging up. She called the next day, saying that she wanted to report my brother. She said that he came to her house last night and started banging on her door to try and get inside. She sent him video of someone banging on her door, but the video only showed the door. Of course, the chief called my brother, who stated he had been home all night with Esme. The chief called Shannon back, saying that anyone could have been on the other side of the door, he needed proof it was my brother. Shannon said she had proof, that she had a small camera in her doorbell (one of those security systems). And that she actually found footage of him breaking into her home while she was gone and he left with all her underwear!
The chief asked her to send that video, but she said she didn't know how to download videos from it. The chief said that wasn't a problem, if she would come in with her phone or, better yet, send them the camera then they would extract the footage. And if the video showed my brother, he'd fire him instantly. Shannon hung up and didn't bother calling back. The chief called my brother back and told him what she had accused him off, saying that he has never dealt with someone this crazy and that he needed to be careful, that he was actually scared for my brother. That he needed to do everything in his power to avoid her until he gets that restraining order, that it would make his case a lot stronger if he shows he's actively trying to avoid her.
So, my brother did just that. He now drops Esme off at school thirty minutes early before Shannon gets to the school, he purposely avoids going to stores he knows she shops at, and takes the long way to work to avoid even driving by the same street she lives on. When she started tracking his location on snapchat he blocked her and made sure to do that same on all his other social media, he also made Esme do the same.
Right now in our small town, people are slowly seeing that it's Shannon who's stalking my brother, who was the one who was truly abusive (mentally). A lot of people have begin to cut contact with her and have texted my mom to tell the horrible things she saying about my brother stalking her, stealing her panties, and was abusive to her. The only ones on Shannon's side is her friends, who have helped a lot in her shenanigans, and her family members. Every so often she still texts my brother for money or say sexual things. (He hasn't blocked her number yet as he still does need evidence to build his case for a restraining order). But, she hasn't done anything quite as crazy as when she contacted his chief again.
Sadly, because my brother is a police officer and a man, his chief wants him to have a rock solid case as he doesn't want Shannon painting a false narrative in court that she's the poor, single mother that was a victim of abuse and that a police officer is abusing his power to punish her further. (His chief has stated he's seen it happen a lot where a woman who's been doing the stalking and abuse will turn things around in court and have the restraining order rejected.).
My brother has stated he's not sure if he would push for the restraining order for a year. Where I lived, you can get a temporary one that lasts a month, long enough until you go to court, and then you petition for one that lasts longer. He says he might just wait until he's getting ready to move to another state, get one done, and then leave. This would prevent her from pulling anything to sabotage his plans or make things harder for him. Once he moves, he's going to be about 11 hours away from her and doesn't plan to post anything about where he lives to keep her from knowing where he's going. This is important because the area where he's planning to move is the same place we moved to about 4 years ago (He's wanting to move close to us because our mom is starting to become in bad health and wants to be nearby). Shannon has family that live about an hour away from us. When they would visit, they would sometimes stay at their home. Meaning if Shannon wanted to, she could easily have a place to stay here long enough to cause my brother trouble.
Considering she got him kicked out of his apartment and tried to get him fired, there's no telling what she might try to pull.
And it was this last stunt that made me thing, and my brother's chief agrees with me, that Shannon has narcissistic personality disorder, all the signs are there. His chief isn't too sure that the night when Shannon called that she wasn't taking something that made this horrible, butchered job of trying to frame my brother for breaking and entered, stalking, and panty robbing seem like a good idea in her brain or if she was just that overconfident she could ruin someone's life with no evidence and lies.
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2020.11.30 00:06 Xenos_Scum PC Upgrade (no need for peripherals)

What will you be doing with this PC? Be as specific as possible, and include specific games or programs you will be using.
Gaming on the latest gen games at hopefully high and stable FPS. Escape from Tarkov, Battlefield 5, Squad, Dota 2, Vermintide 2, Darktide, CyberPunk 2077, Star Wars Squadrons.
What is your maximum budget before rebates/shipping/taxes?
$2,500 CAD - Given I'm looking to potentially keep my RAM and Graphics card and don't need peripherals it would be great if we could do better than this.
When do you plan on building/buying the PC? Note: beyond a week or two from today means any build you receive will be out of date when you want to buy.
ASAP
What, exactly, do you need included in the budget? (ToweOS/monitokeyboard/mouse/etc)
Everything except the graphics card and peripherals. I also have 4 sticks of 8GB ram but would be willing to buy new RAM if the optimal set up called for it.
Which country (and state/province) will you be purchasing the parts in? If you're in US, do you have access to a Microcenter location?
Canada
If reusing any parts (including monitor(s)/keyboard/mouse/etc), what parts will you be reusing? Brands and models are appreciated.
ASUS-DUAL-GTX1070-8G ASUS MG248Q Gaming Monitor -24" FHD (1920x1080),1ms, up to 144Hz Thermaltake Technoloy eSports Poseidon Z Blue Switch Illuminated Keyboard (Kb-PIZ-KLBLUS-01) Razer DeathAdder V2 Pro
Will you be overclocking? If yes, are you interested in overclocking right away, or down the line? CPU and/or GPU?
I'm really not that hardcore I can't think of a scenario where I'd want to overclock for a little extra performance.
Are there any specific features or items you want/need in the build? (ex: SSD, large amount of storage or a RAID setup, CUDA or OpenCL support, etc)
Definitely like the idea of a lot of SSD space if possible within the budget. Is a mechanical hard drive necessary? At some point I would also love to potentially use VR for games like StarWars Squadrons.
Do you have any specific case preferences (Size like ITX/microATX/mid-towefull-tower, styles, colors, window or not, LED lighting, etc), or a particular color theme preference for the components?
Nothing flashy. The less attention it draws the better. Something sturdy and roomy. Especially considering the GTX 1070 listed above takes up a bunch of space!
Do you need a copy of Windows included in the budget? If you do need one included, do you have a preference?
Yes I need windows.
Extra info or particulars:
My old build really seemed to be bottle necked at the CPU level. I would really like to prioritize frame stability and longevity with high performance with this build. It would be great if the systems was easily upgradeable to 4K in a few years.
If you think I need a new graphics card please let me know. This 1070 I have though still seems to be worth a decent amount online so would be great to potentially work with it a few more years.
Thank you to anyone who takes their time to help me out!
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2020.11.29 23:59 apika1i My girlfriend spends all day online, but barely bothers to message me unless I message her first.

I (17F) have been dating my girlfriend (16F) for a couple months now. I’ll call her K for privacy. We’ve been best friends for five years at this point, but recently realized we both have romantic feelings for each other. We’re in a long-distance relationship ‘cause both our families are military and move around quite alot.
I love her to death. She gets me, I get her, and I absolutely love talking and spending time with her. The only thing is, I feel like she doesn’t want to spend time with me as much as I do with her. I’ll send her little messages throughout the day (like memes and stuff) and she’ll usually just ‘like’ my message, leave me on read, or respond with a keysmash or something. Now usually I’d completely understand, because she could easily be busy and I get that! But she’s online nearly all the time, and is constantly messaging her online friends or our other friends while not responding to my messages. Not to mention she almost never sends me any messages unless its replying to one I’ve sent her.
We also facetime every night for an hour or two to catch up, and when we do she taps away at her keyboard while I try to suggest playing a game or having a conversation with her. She’s a discord mod, and catching up with her servers is usually what she’s doing while we facetime. It just hurts a little to see her not care to message me during the day only to not care about having a conversation when we facetime.
Again I love her to death and we have some amazing late-night conversations and ocassional meme exchanges. I’m not mad or frustrated with her in any way, I just wanted to ask for some advice and see if the way I feel is normal. This is my first relationship, and she’s not only my girlfriend but my best friend so I REALLY don’t want to mess anything up. We’re both awful at confrontation so I realize we need to talk about some stuff, but I’m scared to bring it up to her and I’m scared that she sees me as a chore or something and doesn’t want to talk to me. Should I bring this up to her or am I just being dramatic and should let it be? I just want to spend time with her without distractions :(
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2020.11.29 23:53 lexie_wilson total novice looking for a budget gaming computer for indie games

What will you be doing with this PC? Be as specific as possible, and include specific games or programs you will be using.
What is your maximum budget before rebates/shipping/taxes?
When do you plan on building/buying the PC? Note: beyond a week or two from today means any build you receive will be out of date when you want to buy.
What, exactly, do you need included in the budget? (ToweOS/monitokeyboard/mouse/etc)
Which country (and state/province) will you be purchasing the parts in? If you're in US, do you have access to a Microcenter location?
If reusing any parts (including monitor(s)/keyboard/mouse/etc), what parts will you be reusing? Brands and models are appreciated.
Will you be overclocking? If yes, are you interested in overclocking right away, or down the line? CPU and/or GPU?
Are there any specific features or items you want/need in the build? (ex: SSD, large amount of storage or a RAID setup, CUDA or OpenCL support, etc)
What type of network connectivity do you need? (Wired and/or WiFi) If WiFi is needed and you would like to find the fastest match for your wireless router, please list any specifics.
Do you have any specific case preferences (Size like ITX/microATX/mid-towefull-tower, styles, colors, window or not, LED lighting, etc), or a particular color theme preference for the components?
Do you need a copy of Windows included in the budget? If you do need one included, do you have a preference?
Extra info or particulars:
I tried to draft my own parts list after doing some research but I am looking for some help. I'm not attached to anything here and will welcome any advice from this sub! https://pcpartpicker.com/list/wymhj2
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2020.11.29 23:48 asukajun 34 [M4F] #Chicago Looking for something genuine and full of heart

If you are as tired of playing the dating game as I am, perhaps this post is for you. I’m looking to meet my forever person and it would be great if you are too.
I miss being able to make someone smile or laugh. I miss tracing someone’s body with my hand as we lay together. I have lots of love to offer and I’m hoping to find someone who is in the same place.
I’m a bit ride or die. If you are a part of my life then you will be my everything. I will defend you and be there for you. I will call you out when need be. I will always listen and care about the things that make you...you. I think honesty is super important and communication is something I try to pride myself on.
I’m a big believer of human rights. I don’t think that should ever be something someone has to question. I think community is important and I feel there is an obligation to give back if you’re in a situation that allows for it. I’ve done political work for a good chunk of my life, so expect lots of comments and rants about the constant BS that is currently plaguing the world.
I am very much so into video games. I play them and I help make them. It’s a huge part of my life. I’m also really into cosplay and just nerd culture in general.
Boring details about me:
34 years old, tall, average build, Puerto Rican. I have a great and stable career. I have cats.
Let’s chat and get to know one another. Maybe we’ll click!
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2020.11.29 23:40 sometimesamwise Storyboard Artist PC build $2000 budget

What will you be doing with this PC? Be as specific as possible, and include specific games or programs you will be using.
What is your maximum budget before rebates/shipping/taxes?
When do you plan on building/buying the PC? Note: beyond a week or two from today means any build you receive will be out of date when you want to buy.
What, exactly, do you need included in the budget? (ToweOS/monitokeyboard/mouse/etc)
Which country (and state/province) will you be purchasing the parts in? If you're in US, do you have access to a Microcenter location?
If reusing any parts (including monitor(s)/keyboard/mouse/etc), what parts will you be reusing? Brands and models are appreciated.
Will you be overclocking? If yes, are you interested in overclocking right away, or down the line? CPU and/or GPU?
Are there any specific features or items you want/need in the build? (ex: SSD, large amount of storage or a RAID setup, CUDA or OpenCL support, etc)
Do you have any specific case preferences (Size like ITX/microATX/mid-towefull-tower, styles, colors, window or not, LED lighting, etc), or a particular color theme preference for the components?
Do you need a copy of Windows included in the budget? If you do need one included, do you have a preference?
Extra info or particulars:
Thank you so much in advance! This is my first build; I'm not very knowledgeable, but learning as much as I can, and excited!
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2020.11.29 23:26 Frosty_Guest_4664 I accuse myself (21M) of hurting her (22F) seriously, it's been a year. She doesn't think I hurt her. Hell, nobody thinks so, even therapists and psychiatrists. But I still feel guilty, HEAVILY, and I don't know why. Help me please

VERY LONG POST WARNING --- available TL;DR at the end of the post
Hi. This is gonna be a rather long post, so, sorry for that in advance. Also, this is one of my many accounts, the post’s not gonna be published from my real IP, simply because of safety reasons. Even though a part of you guys will probably at least sympathise with me regarding the dilemma, there´s still going to be some of you who will love to get me doxxed, or me being hurt in some way (even though that´s not necessary, since I´m more than willing to hurt myself because of the issue I´m about to address).
Another important detail: English isn´t my native language, I hail from a small country in central/eastern Europe (pick one!). Therefore, my wordsmithing isn´t the finest, so my apologies for that, although I can say that I learn this language for more than a decade and I also know several other languages… so it´s more about my insecurities, I guess.
This story will be all about mental health and most importantly, sex-ed related issues. Why did I decide to post it here? Because I seriously can´t live with it and I need to hear a wider opinion, an opinion of total strangers I haven´t even met. It seems like a stupid idea, doesn´t it. But even though I´ve already told it to many friends, family members, acquaintances, psychologists AND psychiatrists and even some totally unknown people (around 40 people in total), I just feel this urge to hear a wider opinion, especially from foreigners, who aren´t from my country.
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So, I´m a young guy studying at a university in a small city. I´ve met a nice girl in August 2019 via Tinder, who seemed kinda cute, although we hadn´t much to talk about and we were definitely different personality-wise, me being a neurotic diagnosed with OCD and her having a borderline personality disorder. Let´s call her Linda (using fake names, again, for safety reasons). We had sex the first night me met. It was perfect. We started seeing each other and we were satisfied with the fact that we´d date each other. The relationship was relatively stable, although I did sometimes have obsessive thoughts that she might be pregnant (remember – I am diagnosed with OCD and we didn´t have sex with a condom).
At the end of October 2019 the academic year has already begun and we usually just drank every other evening with my roommate. One evening, we went to a pub, had few beers and smoked some weed, all three of us. Then all three of us went from the pub to our apartment to have some rest. There I went to the loo, totally stoned out of my mind, whilst they were already getting ready to sleep, her in my bed and the roommate in his one. Since weed acts a bit strange sometimes, I heard some lip smacking and weird sounds coming from the bedroom, while I was peeing. Remember, I was high af, so after I went to the dark bedroom, I just whispered to them “you guys were kissing here?” and they just were a bit perplexed by my paranoia and told me that nothing happened. Linda then told me to lie down and she just told me to breathe, she then smiled and made sure that I´m calmer. She then lied down next to me, on that small bed. We all just were ready to have some good sleep.
Then I can´t remember much, being drunk and stoned and the same time (she was almost sober since she definitely isn´t a light-weight when it comes to partying). After a while, I just started to touch her a bit and I wanted to have sex, although it was almost impossible, because of weed related reasons. She then whispered that she isn´t in the mood (at least that´s what she told me the next day, I couldn´t remember shit) and I just still was trying to put myself in her (yes, not having the consent), and we had sex for, like, a minute and a half, or something like that, like I said, it was barely possible to even have sex for both of us. She then whispered that we really shouldn´t have sex (two other guys sleeping in the bedroom) and we just… stopped having sex, we covered ourselves with another blanket and then we went to sleep.
The next day we all woke up, some of us with a hangover, and she just was acting normally as usual, joking, smiling, etc. When we went out for a walk, I asked her, “did we have sex last night?” And she just giggled and said “yeah, we did. By the way, you also were paranoid af. And you didn´t ask me much, when we f*cked back there, too,” and she just laughed about it, but I just stood still and was shocked. “Did I just actually commit something horrible last night?”, I asked. She insisted on the fact that she doesn´t acknowledge it as a rape and she just held my hand, told me to stop panicking and we went for a lunch. I forced myself to forget about the evening. By the way – we had sex many other times, until she decided to see someone else in July 2020.
Next month, I started to see something change in me. My heart started to beat fast randomly, I also felt a weird, dull pain in my limbs. I´ve told Linda that I have these weird problems and that I probably have some heart problems. It was later revealed that it was all psychosomatic, all cause by repressed thoughts being linked to that evening.
In late January 2020, I couldn´t resist thinking about that evening. I started to think about it all the time, literal THOUSANDS of times a day. I started to do some research on the internet, because me, being a liberal young guy, already was influenced by some western (mostly American or British) sex-ed websites, having information that non-consensual sex is in 100% of cases counted as a rape. I started finding more and more similar websites. Then I was fully convinced that I, a guy who would never hurt a woman (also being from a family where my father did beat me, my sister and my mom, therefore hurting women and kids), am actually a f*cking rapist.
So, I called Linda. I cried, a lot. She couldn´t really understand me well, because I was in an absolute shock, that I hurt sexually someone I love and appreciate. “So, I actually did rape you back then, didn´t I?” “No, you didn´t, calm down, seriously.”
The next few months were just a terrible mess. Almost every time I met her and I couldn´t hold back my guilt, I just broke down crying, screaming, scratching my hands. She was often trying to calm me down by gently kissing me, caressing me and holding me, but nothing happened, nothing worked. I was just screaming hysterically at her that I´ve raped her and that she has a Stockholm syndrome. After some time I even claimed that she is just an eastern-european hillbilly who apologizes rape, caused on herself. (Little did I know, that she was reluctant to tell me that she did very well know, what a rape is. She was forced to have sex by a stranger at a party – I think she told me it was a party – several years ago. That, she truly acknowledged as a terrible harm, caused by a guy, on her. She told me her experience at the end of spring this year. )
It was in February 2020, when I started to see my new psychiatrist and my new psychologist. The psychiatrist, a guy with a stoic face unimpressed by nothing I said, simply said that he doesn´t see it as a rape and presented some loose arguments, including “if she doesn´t see it as a rape, why do you see it as such?” He prescribed me some benzo´s (Neurol), shook my hand and I left the psychiatric ward of the hospital. This meeting repeated a few times.
Then I´ve met my psychologist. A genuine, nice young guy, who did acknowledge my suffering and told me the same. He, at least, seems a bit more empathetic than Dr. Stoic (another fake name). Nothing helped, even though he was kind and I appreciate his effort. To this day (29th November 2020) we had at least fifty therapies together. Nothing worked to solve the debacle.
The situation didn´t get better, obviously, the cause of the problem simply wasn´t solved. I started to type Linda long messages in chat, that she must tell about “our situation” to the police, that she must solve this situation in a court with me, or I´ll kill myself, because I can´t live with this feeling of guilt anymore. Linda´s opinion didn´t change, however, Linda´s started to lose hair after a while, caused by the stress of the whole… thing. She felt terrible, because I´ve felt extremely terrible.
In March 2020, I got prescribed some antidepressants by Dr. Stoic. SSRIs, Sertraline, to be more precise. I started to use them, because they diagnosed me of having OCD. They also said that it will bring me a relief from thinking about the same thing over and over – remember – SEVERAL THOUSAND times a day. The first days, well… They were just straight up trash. My moods were swinging all over the place, not even taking into account all these “nice” things such as diarrhea, dizziness, nausea and other well-known side effects. To make sure that I won´t kill myself, since I was really thinking about it at this point, I got myself locked up in a psychiatric ward for a few days.
The SSRIs then started working. The spring of 2020 was strangely interesting and funny at the same time. The coronavirus stared its outbreak in my country and I just stayed home at my mom´s place (she had to endure my crying and screaming all the time as well, btw), ate my pills, played video games, sometimes Linda came to visit me, because she still cared about my well-being and I didn´t just give a shit about f*ckall. It was all very, very, lazy. But yes, the pills kicked in after a month of weird feelings and so and so on.
It didn´t also cause the fact that I didn´t give a shit about the issue no more, it also caused that I didn´t give a shit about anything. So, I just kind of layed weeks and weeks in my bedroom and watched some Youtube videos. I also told many other friends the story about “me, in my opinion, raping Linda” in a calm manner. Everybody - in the same calm manner - answered, that I totally overthought the dilemma. I thought about it, didn´t change my opinion at all. But I did have this artificial calmness in me caused by SSRIs, so I just went on my life during the summer, meeting Linda sometimes, our relationship became then more and more loose and then she decided to move on and she started dating a guy who she really loves and he does love her. I´m happy for her, she is much happier now. I also have a new girlfriend now, who I don´t bother with my personal problems too much and I still visit my psychologist.
I´ve stopped taking SSRIs in late September this year, two months before recommended. I also used to drink alcohol often even though I used the meds, but hey, that´s the mentality of our country for you.
I´m still stuck with the issue of accusing myself of being a rapist. Nobody gives a shit, nobody DID give a shit, nobody told me shit, that would help me to stand straight again and stop myself from crying and breaking down all the time, because this is in my eyes a vicious cycle. I WILL eventually kill myself if this issue will not result in ANY way, I just need to make this shit stop.
For the last month, I also started to feel a dissociative tendencies (look up depersonalization & derealization) caused by the stress and my subconciousness unwilling to admit that this really is a reality and it isn´t just a bad dream/a coma (yes, my brain is childish like this).
So… feel free to write down your opinion on this mess, guys and gals. Anything, good or bad. Just remember one thing – I´ve truly suffered for the whole past year.
TL;DR: Sex between me and a girl I used to see (SEE DETAILS ABOVE BEFORE WRITING A COMMENT), girl who I dated and liked, me then accusing myself of rape, she thinks the opposite, I go crazy, she is sad that I go crazy, nothing helps, she just wants me to feel better, new pills just numb the mental pain, still stuck in the same place for a year, she sees now another guy and I see an another gal.
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2020.11.29 23:16 WiseCake13 I (23F) need LDR advice for myself and bf (24M) desperately, please read advice needed!!

I re-submitted this as no one saw it before, I changed the title to help describe my situation better. TLDR; I'm having communication issues with my ldr bf who I'm seriously in love with, I want to do everything possible to make this work, what can we do? My (23f) boyfriend (24m) and I are in a ldr and have been for 3+ years. We lived together briefly during the pandemic until school started. He lives about 5-ish hours away and lives at the dorms on campus, I share an apartment with 2 friends and walk to school.

A little bit about our relationship: he and I are each other's firsts, I did have two 'relationships' in hs that were really awkward and never got passed a kiss each. We met in community college and were aquatinted as we shared a lot of classes in the same major, we ended up becoming friends and then dating. I fell in love with him hard, I'd never been in love before and neither had he. I've always dreamed of getting married and having a big wedding celebration with friends and family, and he isn't sure he wants to get married. He's said in the past I'd be his wife one day, and things like he wants to change my last name. One thing we also can't agree on is space, he'd prefer a studio apartment while one day I'd like to have a big house with enough room for entertaining and guests, maybe some children. While I daydream and pinterest about these things they aren't my top priority right now.
Now onto the issue.
I'm not sure how to start. He used to send me good morning messages everyday, with little emojis and sometimes stickers, and he'd call me beautiful. He gave me attention and made me feel listened to and loved. He's always been a gentleman, I've been up and down with jobs before our relationship began and he's always taken me out for breakfast, lunch, dinner etc. and paid for me. When I was furloughed during the pandemic and didn't at first qualify for unemployment he took care of me and supported me, he bought groceries, a phone, ordered food and paid for our internet bill once (not just for me, but for my roommates too, and when I did qualify I bought him a gaming chair and some other things, and paid for everything then on out including ordering food). He's an amazing man, he's kind, gentle and sweet, and very talented in his major. I feel so lucky to have him in my life, and so I want him to be a permanent fixture.
I think the long distance has been hard and we've both been bottling things up, I can be clingy and he needs space, so this semester I tried to text him less and let him message me first. It would be hours into the day before I heard from him, and we'd do one vc a night but it's not like we had before, I'm not sure how to describe it. I had a vc with him last week and I mentioned he was "it" for me, which he admitted scared him. He came up the day after Thanksgiving (we both tested negative for c) and I mentioned moving in and he said he wanted more time to think about it. Last night we finally talked about our relationship and put everything out in the open. He told me the amount of communication we had this semester was great for him and I broke down, because it's been really hard for me. I told him that while I was happy he was making friends and working on new projects, I've been jealous that they get so much time and attention and I feel like I've been pushed away. He told me that I scared him when I said he was "it" for me, because he wasn't sure if he was ready to settle and wasn't sure if he knew that the love he was feeling was real love. He told me he loves me, but he wasn't sure. I cried so much hearing that. He said we're so young and that there's a lot we haven't done yet, which I agree with. We talked more and I asked if he thought we could save our relationship, and he said that he thought we could make it through this. I told him we don't have to move in together next fall, that we can wait on it, and he seemed relieved. I want to make it through this, I want him to be happy,I don't want to push him into anything he doesn't want to do, and I want to be with him. I'm willing to do whatever it takes to keep this relationship. I'd really like advice from people who have been in LDRs before. We're going to talk more about our relationship today, but I want advice on somethings I can bring up to help improve our relationship. What are things we can do to improve our communication and get on the same level?
Obligatory LTL, though I comment on posts occasionally, also sorry for the long read
I do NOT give permission for anyone to use this as a story in a reddit related youtube video or to repost on any other website in general.
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2020.11.29 23:15 themostcuriousguy 24 [M4M] Canada - Looking for a serious relationship

It could be really sad during this time of the year. I’m way too introverted to socialize and hopefully meet “the one”. Tried dating apps but no luck, now I’m gonna try on here :)
About me, I’m a very chill - happy-go-lucky person who loves to go out eat and capture moments on camera. I’m extremely affectionate, a little bit clingy due to my compliant nature and will spoil you for sure. Hobbies include playing badminton, pingpong and running. I’m soon gonna get into gaming as well, still looking for a nice gaming PC :)
Looking for someone who’s respectful and understanding, not looking for much :) Ideally someone who’s older than me but if we click then we click :)
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2020.11.29 23:13 WakaRanger8 24 Hours to Apply for WakaRanger's Survivor!

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2020.11.29 23:06 Nikki1190 30 [F4R] MB, Canada/Online - Seeking a connection

Hello!
I'm nikki or niks, whichever you prefer, and I'm looking for my person. I'm currently a childcare assistant at a nearby daycare with very inconsistent hours and feeling overworked during these times. I'm looking to change that, aiming to go back to college full-time for Fall of 2021in Digital Media Design, specifically Web Design. I need a change of scenery and more stability in my work life.
I'm a quiet person in real life, and it translates into online interactions. So, don't mistake my short responses or delayed responses as a lack of interest. Sometimes, I easily make friends, but I keep my closest friends in small numbers. I want to create strong connections that last long-term.
I'm a monogamous person, identifying as a lesbian, but one would not be wrong to call me bi. My emotional/romantic connections are always with women. I want to be able to share my interests and hobbies with someone; my love for music, anime, gaming, writing, crafts, worldviews, etc. I'm also a big advocate for mental health because... I have my share of diagnoses and I want to break the stigma surrounding mental health.
I like to take care of people, but now I'd like someone to take care of me-- it's a two-way street. I've always seen myself as empathetic, reliable, and committed. Hopefully, I meet someone who shares those qualities. I'm a bit of a softie for those older than me, and age doesn't feel like a barrier.
I've done the whole dating app thing, but it's just tiring swiping and hunting for someone in that manner. I like doing things in this way because at least you know someone is interested in more than your picture and a micro-bio.
If I'm interesting to you in any way, feel free to message me! My inbox and chat are open!
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2020.11.29 23:03 SlyCoopersButt What are the main problems with BFV?

I’ve just gotten into the game and I’ve been loving it so far. I’ve heard a lot about how it’s one of the worst Battlefield’s to date though. Why is that? The game seems to run pretty smoothly and the mechanics feel pretty smooth.
Why does this game get so much hate?
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2020.11.29 22:54 cuntymcfucktrumpet In May 2020, three-year-old Dylan Ehler was playing outside with his grandmother at her home in Truro, NS. She was momentarily distracted by her dog, which had to be put on a leash. When she turned back around to talk to her grandson, he was gone.

THE DISAPPEARANCE OF DYLAN EHLER
In the afternoon of Wednesday 6th May 2020, three-year-old Dylan Ehler was visiting his grandmother at her home near Queen Street and Elizabeth Street in Truro, Nova Scotia. They were playing outside together in the yard and Dylan's grandmother got distracted by her dog — when she finished dealing with it and turned around to talk to her grandson, he was gone.
Emergency services were contacted immediately and investigators began combing the area Dylan vanished from in search of anything that would lead them to the missing toddler. The very same day, they made an important discovery.
Dylan's rubber boots were found in Lepper Brook, a waterway located a mere two-minute walk from his grandmother's home. One was found at 7.20pm and the other was found later in the evening, further down the brook near where it meets Salmon River. Salmon River runs into Cobequid Bay which connects to the Bay of Fundy — known to have the highest tides in the world.
Police quickly shifted their focus towards recovery efforts, examining the Salmon River shoreline and the river itself. Underwater cameras and thermal imaging devices were used and after nothing of value was found in the initial operation, law enforcement expanded their search to include the area near the mouth of Cobequid Bay. They also re-canvassed residents of Dylan's grandmother's neighbourhood.
Although the water was clear and visibility was good, they could find no further sign of Dylan. On 15th May, police announced they would not be continuing the underwater searches unless there were new developments in the case.
RESPONSE FROM DYLAN EHLER'S FAMILY
Support for the Ehler family came pouring in, locally, provincially, and nationally. Some Truro residents put rubber boots on their doorsteps as a sign of hope that Dylan may still return, with one saying: "I put out a teddy bear and a blanket hoping that he would… just find his way up the road, and I left the light on so he could see my yard is all lit up.”
Then, on 20th May, a local newspaper revealed Dylan's mother (Ashley Brown) had been charged with assaulting Dylan’s father (Jason Ehler) four days before Dylan went missing. On the same day, Jason was charged with "uttering a threat to cause death,” to Ashley. He was also charged with committing mischief for deliberately damaging Ashley's cellphone.
Dave MacNeil, Truro Police Chief, has stated from the very beginning of the investigation he does not believe Dylan fell victim to foul play and that the previous charges are completely unconnected to his case. Speaking in an interview about what may have happened, Dylan's grandfather said:
"He thinks it’s a game. Once he’s out and about, he loves to run. He was outside with his grandmother. Then he was gone."
However, Dylan's parents do not think their son was a victim of a tragic accident. In June 2020, they announced details of a crowdfunded $10,000 reward for Dylan's safe return and $1,000 for information leading to his whereabouts. It's their belief the toddler may have been kidnapped. According to Dylan's father, Jason:
"The boots don’t make sense. The boots have never made sense... people covered that ground as soon as (Dylan’s grandmother) screamed for help. As soon as the grandmother called for help, there was a guy instantly at that brook, and there was nothing. No boots, no boy, no nothing."
Ashley and Jason theorise that Dylan's boots could've ended up in Lepper Brook after being thrown from the small railway bridge that crosses over the waterway — they're concerned police zeroed in on the river too quickly without considering other possible scenarios in the case.
WHERE DOES DYLAN EHLER'S CASE STAND NOW?
Initially, Ashley and Jason set an expiry date of 15th July on the reward in order to urge people to come forward quickly. However, no credible tips were received by this date and the reward was subsequently increased to $15,000 with no deadline implemented for the receipt of information.
Dylan's parents have conducted many of their own searches in recent months, aided by volunteers from the local community. At the time of Dylan's disappearance, the water was high and moving quickly. The drier summer and fall conditions made the brook easier to navigate, but searchers are yet to find any further trace of Dylan.
Ashley remains hopeful that Dylan is still alive since no other clothing belonging to him — or Dylan himself — has been found.
In an August 2020 interview, she said the family has been taking additional security measures after receiving death threats online. They has also gotten ransom messages demanding cryptocurrency in exchange for their son's safe return, which the police have investigated and determined to be a scam.
In October 2020, an individual made a Facebook post about a possible sighting of Dylan walking down the street with a woman in Bathurst, New Brunswick (a three-and-a-half hour drive from Truro). Local police reviewed video footage, interviewed witnesses, and concluded that “there was no confirmation that the child seen... was actually Dylan.”
Just this month, the reward fund was again increased to $18,207. Police follow up on leads as they receive them. Dylan's family carries out daily searches using a drone and continues to organise volunteer ground searches. His parents say they will keep looking for Dylan until they have answers, with his father commenting:
"Dead or alive, we want him back. We need him back."
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OTHER POSTS
If you enjoyed this post and want to read about more unresolved mysteries in Atlantic Canada and Scotland, you can check out my other posts here:
  1. Andrew Ramsay is kidnapped by two men impersonating police officers in Glasgow, Scotland, and his remains are found in a river the following year
  2. Alan Jeffrey (from Wishaw, Scotland) goes missing while on holiday in Tenerife, Spain
  3. 20-year-old Joshua Miller goes missing after getting into a fight at a nightclub in St. John's, NL
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2020.11.29 22:48 IEnjoyWritingNotes 23 [M4A] [friends] [relationship] just want something permanent whether it’s friends or more.

Hi everyone my name is Nik I’m 23 from Kent in England. I’ve been single quite a while now and I think this lockdown has taught me that being alone really sucks! So it’s about time I get back on the wagon!
About me - I’m 5’4 (short but have a huge heart) -64kg - I’m transgender. Born female and transitioning to male. I bring this up only because I think it’s fair my partner knows this rather than going on a date and them finding out that way - I’m bisexual (no preference) - autistic, anxiety and have adhd (triple A woo) - work in a bar but currently on furlough cos of the pandemic - I have 3 cats
interests/hobbies So I’m a gamer, my favourite game being minecraft but I do like fallout and farming simulator as well. I enjoy watching and playing tennis to keep fit or going for a walk, I also enjoy football. I love cooking especially Italian food but my favourite food has too be a traditional cottage pie 🤤. When it comes to music I’d say my taste is quite random. I’m not particularly into rap or hiphop but maybe the odd song might get me interested! Movie wise I love comedy, sci fi and action. Get a mix of all 3 then 👌🏻.
What I’m looking for
•looking for someone aged 18-32 (preferably be 21-25) •preferably in the uk though I wouldn’t ignore you if you lived elsewhere •a gamer •cat lover •someone with a good sense of humour •loves cuddles!
If you think you fit those requirements send me a message 😊 look forward to hearing from you😅
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2020.11.29 22:43 BlueEye_ The 2021 "Waiting for Skins" Club

TL;DR: See the first chart below for champions waiting longer than 2 years for a new skin, and the second chart for those champions in order of most to least neglected. Details of how I got there are included.

With patch 10.25 on the PBE seeing the release of the remainder of Riot's promised "neglected champion" skins of 2020 (Elderwood Azir, Ivern, and Ornn), I decided to put together a spreadsheet documenting who might reasonably expect a skin in 2021. According to the announcement video that dropped in January at the start of this year, Riot claimed they wanted champion mains to be able to to count the amount of time since they've seen a skin "in months instead of years".
I thought the results might be worth sharing so there could be a complete set of information for people to reference in the skin discussion. The specific criteria I used to qualify champs for this list are those that have been waiting at least 730 days (2 years) since their last skin. Additionally, I define "new skin" as any skin that has its own portrait in the skins tab of the client. This includes Prestige, Hextech, and special event skins in the case of the 10th anniversary Annie skin.
Out of the 153 champions currently in the game (including Rell), 13 champions qualify.
So without further ado, I present the remaining list of champions (as of November 29, 2020) whose mains are still counting the time since their last skin in years, ordered from longest to shortest wait period:
ORDER CHAMPION DAYS SINCE SKIN DATE OF NEWEST SKIN
1 Shyvana 1649 May 25, 2016
2 Kalista 1565 August 17, 2016
3 Quinn 1396 February 2, 2017
4 Gragas 1039 January 25, 2018
5 Wukong 970 April 4, 2018
6 Rumble 963 April 11, 2018
7 Cho'Gath 870 July 13, 2018
8 Xin Zhao 831 August 21, 2018
9 Kayn 809 September 12, 2018
10 Kled 767 October 24, 2018
11 Fiddlesticks 752 November 8, 2018
12 Lulu 739 November 21, 2018
13 *Dr. Mundo 724 December 6, 2018
* I include Dr. Mundo since he just barely misses the 2 year mark with his last skin, he'll qualify when 2021 begins.
Additionally, I decided to rank these champs based on how neglected they are. The amount of time these champions have been out varies greatly, and the ones that have been out the longest have their skin pools saturated with skins that have outdated visuals. I decided to use a somewhat weak blanket benchmark of epic+ skins since these tend to be the "higher quality" skins that don't show their age as much.
Figuring out a way to sort these fairly was a bit of a challenge as I wanted to account for time since release of champion, number of skins, and number of "high quality" skins all at once. After playing around with calculations a bit, I ended up ordering the champions by taking the average of number of skins per day and epic skins per skin. Admittedly this is pretty arbitrary, but it resulted in what I think is a pretty fair order.
With that being said, here is the list again, but sorted in order based on how deserving they are of some love in the skin department, along with the important details considered:
ORDER CHAMPION DAYS SINCE RELEASE SKINS EPIC+ SKINS
1 Quinn 2830 / Mar 2013 4 0
2 Kalista 2201 / Nov 2014 3 0
3 Gragas 3953 / Feb 2010 10 1
4 Shyvana 3316 / Nov 2011 6 1
5 Dr. Mundo 4106 / Sep 2009 10 3
6 Fiddlesticks 4299 / Feb 2009 9 3
7 Xin Zhao 3792 / Aug 2010 8 3
8 Cho'Gath 4174 / Jun 2009 7 3
9 Rumble 3505 / Apr 2011 4 2
10 Kled 1603 / Aug 2016 2 1
11 Wukong 3414 / Aug 2011 6 3
12 Lulu 3176 / Mar 2012 8 6
13 Kayn 1236 / Aug 2017 2 2
As a final note for anybody curious, only 33 champions out of the 153 in existence have not received skins in 2020, meaning only an additional 20 on top of the champs listed above. I'm of the opinion that Riot is doing pretty good with skins these days, so please don't use this as an excuse to throw hate their way. That is absolutely not the purpose of this post; my only goal is to provide information.
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